Odyssey of life with Temilola

Mastering the art of letting go of what you cannot change is a transformative skill that paves the way for a life filled with peace and fulfillment. As humans, it's natural to cling to the past and harbor concerns about the future. However, dwelling on elements beyond our control inevitably leads to stress, anxiety, and even depression. The first crucial step toward letting go of the unchangeable is embracing REALITY . It involves acknowledging that certain events have occurred or will transpire, irrespective of our emotional response. Recognizing that we cannot alter the past or dictate the future is liberating; attempting otherwise only fuels frustration and disappointment. Once we have accepted reality, the next step is to FOCUS on the present moment. This means letting go of regrets about the past and worries about the future, and instead focusing on what we can do right now to make our lives better. This might mean setting goals, practicing self-care, or simply enjoying the s...

In the quaint town of Ekiti, a woman named Ada faced an unimaginable challenge that left her staring into the abyss of pain. Ada, a devoted mother and wife, was struck by a sudden and severe illness that altered the course of her life. The weight of physical suffering, coupled with the emotional toll on her family, became the proverbial knothole through which she struggled to make sense of her world. According to the dictionary, a knothole is a void left by a knot in the wood; such holes are often convenient for peering through when they occur in fences. Ada found herself peering through the knothole of her pain, unable to see beyond the immediate struggle of her illness. She grappled with questions of purpose, the fairness of life's twists, and the harsh reality of her newfound vulnerability. The Knothole Analogy: Ada's journey reflects the profound analogy of looking through the knothole. Her life, once a smoothly crafted fence of routine and joy, now bore the interruptions o...

Feminist have come up with theories expressing the need for gender equality between a man and a woman. Although most of these theories have been countered several times, we can’t still rule out the fact that the position of a woman in the family, society and nation is a great one. Permit me to say women are the salt of the world. They make life sweeter when they are added in the right proportion and when treated otherwise you can imagine what the result will be. Without their presence everything becomes sour. The position of a woman in a home cannot be overemphasized, they run and manage the affairs of the home which include taking care of the husband, children, cooking meals, attending to guests and extended family members, buying items needed for everyday life and the list is endless. Although some husbands try as much as they can to help out in doing some of these things while some totally feel it’s the duty of a wife and they never help out. The attitudes of some of thes...

Hey You 🙋🙋, I know you are upset because ‘they’ didn’t choose you. ‘They’ have a less mentality of you. Just know that whatever they choose OVER you was less than what they had WITH you. So stop trying to make people who don’t have ability to handle expensive gift choose you because when they do, they won’t know what to do with you. There is something called SELF-WORTH, it is an internal state of being that comes from self-understanding, self-love and self-acceptance. Abraham Lincoln wrote “it is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself”. So please have a high level of self-worth instead of getting upset.

   Mike a young Christian guy who is deeply convinced about a lady (Grace) he intends to settle down with has been given a test of patience that is unknown to him. He felt all the processes he has to go through before getting a solid “yes” from Grace was just too much. He has never experienced a Christian dating or courtship before; the rules were just too much for him. Pastor O asked Mike to give him a call so they could discuss more his plans and intentions towards his spiritual daughter. Mike made several attempts to reach Pastor O on call but he wasn’t picking up. He tried severally and when he got fed up, he reported the situation to Grace. She asked Mike to calm down but he got so upset and felt Pastor O’s attitude was uncalled for. He kept saying all kinds of words out of anger and this caused a great misunderstanding between Mike and Grace. Mike out of anger sent a rude message to Pastor O and the rest was history. The message caused a lot of problem for Mike an...

In reality, the belief that women secretly hate one another has a long history. For centuries, women were pronounced incapable of “true friendship”. Rather than enjoying the long-lasting friendships found among men, bonds between women were depicted as short-lived, unable to withstand women’s quarrelsome natures. Many believe female who occupy influential positions are tougher on women employees, reluctant to help others shatter the glass ceiling for fear of losing their own privileged position. This is not supposed to be. Sometimes, we forget how easy it is to be our sister’s keeper. On one of my short visits to Lagos, I decided to visit  a friend of mine who stays around Iyana-Ipaja axis. I got to the bus station where I was to board a bus going to my destination and realized a bus was loading already. I didn’t feel like entering the bus because it was big so I decided to go for a smaller bus. As I was about entering the bus, I noticed there was a strong argument going on a...