ANGER

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   Mike a young Christian guy who is deeply convinced about a lady (Grace) he intends to settle down with has been given a test of patience that is unknown to him. He felt all the processes he has to go through before getting a solid “yes” from Grace was just too much. He has never experienced a Christian dating or courtship before; the rules were just too much for him.

Pastor O asked Mike to give him a call so they could discuss more his plans and intentions towards his spiritual daughter. Mike made several attempts to reach Pastor O on call but he wasn’t picking up. He tried severally and when he got fed up, he reported the situation to Grace. She asked Mike to calm down but he got so upset and felt Pastor O’s attitude was uncalled for. He kept saying all kinds of words out of anger and this caused a great misunderstanding between Mike and Grace. Mike out of anger sent a rude message to Pastor O and the rest was history. The message caused a lot of problem for Mike and almost ruined his chances of settling with Grace. He later realized that his inability to control his anger almost cost him a fortune.

ANGER according to Wikipedia is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt, or threat. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight brain response. Anger is used as a protective mechanism to cover up fear, hurt, or sadness. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. The external expression of anger can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times public acts of aggression.

At times, anger is the appropriate response to the actions of others. When managed correctly and kept in check, anger can be an important ally to a healthy adult. But anger has risks, perhaps more than any other emotion. It can alienate people from others and lead individuals to do things they later regret. People who have lasting, extreme anger may find it helpful to explore its causes with a therapist. The causes of anger can vary. It may be triggered by external factors such as bullying, humiliation, and loss. Internal factors, such as frustration or failure, can also lead to anger. Anger is not always a reaction to a present circumstance. Sometimes a situation will unconsciously remind a person of past experience. A person may displace their anger about the past onto the present situation. Anger typically has less to do with an event and more with how a person reacts to the event. Certain negative thought patterns often precede an outburst of anger.



Since it is known that anger is a negative emotion; then any individual experiencing anger from time to time should learn to manage it. Anger management is very important for every individual.


The following tips will help in anger management:

  • Always think before you speak
  • Once you are calm, then state your concerns and needs clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them
  • Take a time out. It will make you feel better.
  • Instead of getting angry over a problem/situation, learn to identify solutions. Regularly remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.
  • Don’t hold a grudge- do not allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive thoughts
  • Learn to use humor to release tension
  • Practice relaxation skills; take it easy-listen to music
  • Know when to seek help. When you see that you can’t control your anger, cry out for help

In conclusion, anger is a small madness and for every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. No matter the situation, always learn to stay calm. Cheers!!!!😎

Comments

  1. Olajemilo adedolapo Rachael17 September 2019 at 07:09

    I do get infuriated also lemme say easily, but mine I will neglect or snub anybody that moment am angry, but I would make sure I didn't hurt anyone, so I would stay indoor althrough still I'm calm

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