THE BROKEN CALABASH

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I want to take a journey back into the ancient times, the times of our fore fathers. When there was no technology or any form of advancement in the world, when things were done according to our culture and tradition.
            My mum explained to me how marriage rites were carried out. How a woman is meant to keep herself and remain a virgin before marriage. She also explained to me how the groom’s family pays a woman’s dowry/bride price and takes items to the bride’s parent. Am sure some of you know this history.
            After the marriage ceremony, the man always return back to his people and the brides people to tell them if his wife is a virgin or not. if the wife is a virgin, after the first intercourse on the wedding night, he uses a white piece of cloth to clean the blood that comes from the woman’s sexual organ. He then takes the piece of cloth to his family and the bride’s parent telling them he married a complete woman. But if he did not meet her as a virgin, he sends a broken calabash/pieces of a broken clay pot to her family telling them that he married an incomplete woman.
            In some cases, the man sends the bride back to her parents and in some rare cases, the man protects his wife  by covering the incident due to the love and affection he has and then lives with her; Although some family tradition is against this.
            When something breaks, it has different meaning but I will prefer to use a meaning that says “to be damaged and separated into two or more parts as a result of force”. I understand that guys think that only a lady can be referred to as a broken calabash but I strongly disagree. I disagree not because am a lady but because this situation applies to all. Leaving virginity out of this, many parts of a man’s life can be broken. Some parts of our lives can be likened to a broken piece or calabash.
            What is that part of your life that has been damaged or separated into two as a result of force? This force could be physical or spiritual depending on the situation. Recall one of my previous posts that talks about the mind. I believe that a broken calabash can be moulded to become a fine calabash that has no crack.

            All you have to do is to pick up the pieces and arrange them together using fine clay. Remember also the muddy ground that is used eventually to make beautiful things.  Is it part of your job that is broken? Is it part of your marriage, part of your relationship, part of your dreams or career? Common!!! Pick up the pieces.
            Are you almost given up? Are you already planning to return that calabash because part of it is broken? Well, remember that there is no problem without a solution.
            That part of the calabash that is broken is going to be a testimony soon. Open your eyes clearly to see the ideas behind the broken part of that calabash. Apply wisdom and make good use of the idea.

            Think about the mystery of the calabash and discover the secrets and solutions behind it.CHEERS

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