LONELY TIMES

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Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connectedness or community with other beings both in the present and extended to the future.
            To be lonely means to be sad; being apart from other people; causing sad feeling from being apart from other people.
            Lonely times are times when you are alone, sometimes, it doesn't necessarily mean when you are alone physically, you can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely mentally or emotionally.
            Further reading and investigation has shown that loneliness can be described as social pain, a psychological mechanism meant to alert an individual of isolation and motivate him/her to seek social connection. This can occur as a symptom of chronic depression, lack of friendship, break up, divorce, long distance relationships, unstable marriages, anger, resentment, home sickness, lack of love…..etc.
            At a stage or point in our lives, we have found ourselves in some lonely state. Lonely times are very sensitive times. It is a very delicate time.
We usually think about lot of things when we are alone. This is the period when the good and bad thoughts come. This is the period when we remember a lot that have happened in the past, we deliberate on the present and imagine the future. The period when people make some certain decisions concerning their lives///LONELY TIMES
            But I realize that only few people make good use of their lonely times, some people are very vulnerable in this period. They find themselves doing what they are not meant to do due to the fact that they are lonely. Young ladies crave for attention during this time and they pick calls they shouldn't pick because they are lonely, they engage themselves in activity they are not meant to be involved in due to loneliness, young men seek for company and get hooked up in activities that isn't called for, all because they are lonely.
            Many lives have been changed because some people utilized their lonely times by engaging their brains in critical thinking and good decision making…the devil loves to tempt people and fill their head with bad thoughts during this period, an idle mind, is the devils workshop…
            It is always good to get yourself busy and not to allow bad thoughts dominate your mind during your lonely times. Do not be quick to take decisions during your lonely time. You can engage yourself in creative thinking and activities that will yield positive results…

            What do you do when you are lonely?, are you the type that isolates yourself when the feeling of loneliness comes?, are you the type that indulge yourself in shady activities and unworthy things during this period?. It’s time to have a rethink and make good use of your lonely times. CHEERS

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